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Relationship Enhancement

When two people have grown apart they are each lonely. People need an emotional connection. If that is not there between the two people they tend to find it elsewhere. The emotional connection could come through investment in the children, work, alcohol, sports, affairs or any other interest that provides emotional sustenance. Couples who find themselves in this situation may manage the demands of daily living quite well together but be missing out on the love and friendship which intimacy provide.

How to reconnect when the emotional connection has been weakened over the years?

Do something that you know will please your partner

It is the little things that that have a long lasting effect on love. Your partner may feel pleasure if you cook something you know your partner likes, or finish a project that has been in process far too long, compliment on appearance, or suggest you will do something that you know he/she would enjoy.

One person can start the process of reconnecting.

When people are lonely they are also angry and feel betrayed by the other. Consequently human nature is to want the other one to start showing caring first. If you are the one who desires to reconnect then just start. The likelihood is great that your partner will respond. Remember both of you are feeling the lack of intimacy.

Listen with an open heart

Hear what your partner is saying with an openness of heart. You came together by choice accepting your different backgrounds and upbringing. Step back and see your partner objectively. When you do, you will hear and accept whatever is said as belonging to your partner. Listening objectively allows you to hear with an open heart and not from your fear or anxiety.

Be fair

Inside yourself you know what it means to play fair in your relationship. When you act with integrity and are fair to yourself, you will automatically do the right thing for you and your partner.

Let go of blame. criticism, and judgment

These three relationship killers put you in a danger one of who is right and who is wrong. Communicate how you are feeling and thinking by using the pronoun I. By speaking for yourself you are not putting your partner on the defensive. You will build trust and become closer.

Love your partner

Get back in touch with all the qualities you first admired and adored about your partner. What first attracted you to him or her? As you look deeply at what you love about your partner, you can rekindle your love and see your partner with a fresh new perspective

Resource Author Francisco R. Higueras
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