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I am now in a happy place, I have pride in where I am at in comparison to where I have been and I now live a contented life. Why? Well because I have managed to turn my life around. No longer am I that paranoid man with a low self-confidence. I now live life with a smile on my face and am very much looking forward to the future. This article will describe how I went about turning my life around; from zero to hero; from depression to happiness and from fear to freedom.

Besides my nervous way of speaking (I had a speech impediment commonly referred to as stuttering), the following areas of confidence coaching were of interest to me:

I had, for whatever reason, a lack of belief at the workplace

For whatever reason I was a person who believed that he would fail every task that he was set

I wanted to become far more assertive

I would often get dragged down by negative comments

I was paranoid (at least a subtle feeling) that people don’t like me

For some bizarre reason I would often feel
very sorry for myself

I wanted to be able to speak with authority and presence

I wanted to see fear and anxiety as a challenge and not as a prison cell

I wanted to learn to be self-assured and to be able to feel comfortable in any place, anytime

I wanted to be able to talk to anyone, at anytime and feel completely in control and natural

As you can see I wanted quite a lot! By reading literature about how to gain confidence, how to increase self-confidence and about how to become a success helped me, in some degree, with all of the above. I realised that I needed to be a lot more care-free, I needed to stop worrying about what other people thought of me and I needed to appreciate what I had in life. Only by doing this will I ever have any chance of becoming a success.

I am now a lot more confident and proficient in my business life which is in the training for foster carers sector. It is a good place to be – happy at work and happy at home.

Low self confidence can keep many people from living the life they wish to lead and undertaking the challenges they wish to do most. By changing your attitude and your behavior in your everyday life you can make steady progress towards improving your confidence dramatically. Here are some quick tips to help you learn how to improve self confidence easily:

• It is human nature to look up to other people, so find a role model, either famous or a friend, whose self confidence you wish to have. In awkward situations, mirroring your role model can help. If you find yourself not feeling confident then imagine you are your role model instead - what would your role model do differently? Would they be successful?

• Ignoring failure and instead focusing on successes - no matter how small - will make you feel better and more confident. There is always something positive to find in any situation, even if it is only that you will learn from it and do things differently next time.

• For a quick boost of confidence at a social event, buy a new outfit for the occasion. If you feel you are not good at buying clothes try a style guide like How to Dress by Gok Wan which educates about body shapes, skin tones and the clothes to suit these. The more you learn about what clothes to wear the better others will see you, and this will reflect on your own self confidence in a positive way.

• By improving and concentrating on body language, a sense of confidence can easily be faked. Crossed arms and stooping are to be avoided and standing tall and smiling at every opportunity should be encouraged so you can soon begin to feel as confident as others think you are. The philosophy of "fake it till you make it" really will work. If you do this you will "make it".

• Fantastic results can be achieved by using subliminal messaging. This might seem foreign to you, but all subliminal messaging really is, is a mild type of hypnosis. A subliminal improve confidence cd will boost your confidence in social situations and optimistically reprograms your inner subconscious mind/. This means that you are 100 times more likely to improve your confidence.

Do you lack confidence? Are you looking for advice and tips that could enable you to increase your self-esteem? If you have answered either or both of these questions in the positive then this article may well be of interest to you.

Up until the age of about twenty-one I always seemed to have a lack of self-belief. In truth I did not particularly like myself. I was extremely jealous and envious of other people and what they seemingly had in comparison to me. Their lives just seemed so easy where as mine was a constant battle. What I needed was to some how gain confidence.

I had a stutter you see which did make life unbearable at times. I did eventually, at the age of twenty-two, manage to achieve fluency which of course was a great relief. I had however already spent the previous eighteen years struggling to cope with a stuttering or what is also known as stammering problem that virtually destroyed my entire confidence.

What I did learn and what was eventually a catalyst to enabling me to eradicate the speech impediment was that I needed to start appreciating what I had in life. I had to stop being so hard on myself and at the same time work towards improving the areas of my life that I was not happy with.

I also had to stop stressing, panicking and worrying so much. My whole approach to life had to change; I was now going to start to think in a positive manner.

These were some massive changes that I was attempting to make to the way that I lived my life and I will not try and tell you that it was easy. Ultimately however all of the effort did pay off and I was able to achieve fluency and a real confidence.

I hope that you will also be able to gain in confidence; I will be happy to help in any way that I can.

As a successful businessmen I am now involved in various projects including one which offers online guitar lessons for beginners. This is a great deal fun as the lessons are very beneficial and the feedback thus far has been very positive.